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Jesus…. An ultimate example of a man


ImageFirst off, Happy New year to everyone! I hope you all have made the best of the first 10 days of the year! 2013 is a fresh start for a lot of us, full of promise, hope, and good times. 2012 may not of been your best year, but “The best is yet to come!” So hold on and don’t give up!

Personally At the end of 2012 and the beginning of 2013 I went through some struggles that I never thought I would ever have to face. It challenged my faith, and my walk with Christ, but I have learned so much since going through. While at church on Sunday my pastor discussed The blood of Jesus, and at the end he showed some snippets from the Passion of the Christ movie. Now I have seen this movie before, but this time I felt like it was through totally new eyes.

Jesus, in his perfection was ridiculed, embarrassed, tempted, beat, and betrayed unjustly. when I think about how Jesus felt after being spat on, and betrayed by the very ones who walked with him, it makes me realize how much strength he exuded. His selflessness, and love for us, despite what was going on around him still propelled him to fulfill the calling on his life. He even spoke the words “forgive them, for they know not what they do”. How many of us have said that about our enemies?

Jesus, in all his power and heavenly strength was consistently tempted, tested and tried. Whether it was by one of his own, outsiders or the devil himself. He always overcame every obstacle and every test that was put in front of him. Jesus never had the “Woe is me” mentality, he knew his purpose was bigger than just him. He never gave up, even when they put a crown of thorns on his head, he didn’t stop when he had to carry the cross through the city while people humiliated and spat on him. He forgave those who hated him, and that is the ultimate example of a man. 

Throughout the bible Jesus speaks to us a lot about love, respect, and how to treat others, but the greatest example of Jesus was that he walked out the words that came out of his mouth. Jesus displayed love to others and protected them even when they did wrong, like the prostitute who he kept from being stoned (John 8:7). Jesus Showed us how to stand up for ourselves and use the word of God as our aid and not let the devil lie to us, like he did when the Devil came to him (Matthew 4:1-11). He also showed us how to forgive even in the midst of our enemies like he did when he hung on the cross and was being ridiculed (Luke 23:34-37). 

When we think about ourselves as being Followers of Christ how do we line up? Do we follow the same character traits as Jesus, and line ourselves up with the word of God, or do we let our flesh get in the way and wrap ourselves in our emotions and handle our problems that way? Jesus character and integrity and passion to do the will of the Father is a powerful example of how we should live our lives everyday. This life is not all about us, and until we get to the point where we rely strictly on the word of God to handle our issues, worries, and struggles we will constantly be in a position where we aren’t able to help others be who they are called to be. We have to let go whatever it is that comes against us to break us, and lean on the word of God for direction, healing, and restoration. That’s what Jesus would do, what about you?

He makes all things new!


17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

Don’t think about the mistakes you have made in the past. Don’t think about the lies you told, the people you hurt, and how irresponsible you were. Once you became a follower of Christ and asked for his forgiveness, he forgave you and threw your sins in to the sea of forgetfulness.  (Micah 7:19)

19He will again have compassion on us; He will subdue and tread underfoot our iniquities. You will cast all our sins into the depths of the sea.(A)

20You will show Your faithfulness and perform the sure promise to Jacob and loving-kindness and mercy to Abraham, as You have sworn to our fathers from the days of old

Sometimes we get so focused on our past mistakes, we forget to remember that God Loves us so much and he WANTS us to do right. This doesn’t give us an excuse to mess up on purpose. But just remember to continue to move forward, repent, and develop a closer relationship with him.

He loves you!

Here is one of my favorite songs, enjoy!

Agape love, what does it mean??


This is a great article I found by Jimmy Evans… Let me know what you think…. Great advice for those looking to get married as well as those who are married. Happy reading!

                                             ~Dara Nichole

 

A Special Type of Love

There is an odd truth concerning love and marriage. Understanding it is an important key in making marriage and other relationships work. The truth is this – we don’t have the ability to really love without the power of the Holy Spirit working through us. In Galatians 5:22-23, the Apostle Paul tells us the fruit of the Spirit is, “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control…” According to this scripture, we don’t have the capacity to love without God giving us that ability as we surrender to Him. Often, when people say they love someone, they are just talking about sexual desire or a passionate feeling. These kinds of feelings come and go.So how are people able to “love” when they don’t know God? They can’t.

At least they are not able to love with God’s type of love. God’s love is a special love the Bible calls “agape”. It is a love that flows out of the will and does not change. It is the most stable and predictable kind of love and the only type that can provide a lasting foundation in marriage. Often, when people say they love someone, they are just talking about sexual desire (the Greek word “eros” where we get the word erotic) or a passionate feeling (“thumos” where we get our thermos). These kinds of feelings come and go. When they go for very long, many people give the old line “I don’t love you anymore” and are out the door. Agape love, however, is a committed and sacrificial love that is modeled after Jesus. When Jesus tells us He loves us, He isn’t talking about a feeling that comes and goes. He is telling us He is committed to us forever and will not change. Whether His feelings for us are positive or negative, it doesn’t change His commitment to us.

 We really need to consider what we mean when we tell our spouse, “I love you”. Are we saying that we are experiencing a fleeting feeling or are we saying we are committed to him or her forever and will demonstrate love regardless of bad feelings or negative circumstances? It isn’t wrong to express a feeling, as long as when that feeling isn’t there any more, you can still say “I love you,” and do the right thing regardless of the situation. People controlled by their emotions are unreliable, and their moodiness can do a lot of damage to relationships.

The most stable and dependable people in relationships are those who are submitted to the influence of the Holy Spirit. They are powered by a supernatural love that will do the right thing through thick and thin. Ask God to fill you with the power of His Holy Spirit. He never intends for us to go around trying to love people out of the shallow well of our own emotions.

The ocean of His love is always available to any of us who would just admit our weaknesses and depend upon Him. His agape love is the highest love and will transform any person, relationship or marriage under its influence.

check out more articles by Jimmy Evans at: Http://www.marriagetoday.org

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God is stronger than your trials and tribulations


How many times have you been through a situation where you didn’t understand why it happened?  The word says: Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivereth him out of them all (Psalm 34:19). Being a Christian isn’t a remedy for having a perfect life, but it is the realization that the Lord is our comfort, can give us peace in the middle of a storm, and gives us hope for our future.

Recently my husband and I lost our first child. This was a traumatic situation where we had to lean on the Lord to get us through.  We didn’t understand why we were going through the situation, or the reason, but God’s word was a peace to us, and through it we understood who God is, and that is where our victory lies. The bible says “The LORD gives strength to his people; the LORD blesses his people with peace.” (Psalm 29:11) and God gave us that.

Instead of focusing on all the things we felt went wrong or what we could have done differently, we trusted that the Lord was in control and that his will was and still is prevailing. We know sometimes the enemy will try to get in your head and tell you one thing, but the devil is a liar, and nothing he says lines up with the word. My husband and I truly believe that we have the victory in this situation and that our future is bright, God loves us and you soo much, and he came to give us abundant life. That is what we cling to.

The wrong thing to do in a traumatic situation is to blame God. We must always remember that the Lord is our help, and that he is on our side(Psalm 124:8, Psalm 33:20, Romans 8:31) trials and tribulations come, and this is where the Word comes into play. You must be faithful and trust that God knows the end from the begininng, and that everything is working out for your good. We know that one day we will have a house full of beautiful children, and when the time is right, we will have that.

If you have been through, or are going through this situation right now, just know that God is on your side. He loves you and will be a comfort to you. Don’t give up faith in the Lord, and in his word he will see you through. He cares for you, and wants nothing but the best for you and your family. Stay strong in the Lord, trust God, and make sure your words line up with the word, and you will receive the things God has specifically for you. God is greater than your situation, and greater than you can believe, he can do the impossible, trust, believe, know that he is an awesome God, and he wants you to have children. Just remember that weeping may endure for a night, but Joy comes in the Morning.  And over time, you will have joy.

Chapter 2 “Keeping up with the Billingsleys”


“Oh no she didn’t!” See, this is why I can’t live with uppity folks.” Tenia slammed the freezer door closed and walked toward the couch where I was sitting.

“Danielle, did you eat my last Hot pocket?” Tenia stood in front of me like I stole something from her.

“No Tenia, I don’t even like those things.” I rolled my eyes and pushed her from in front of the television.

“Well, if you didn’t eat it, and I didn’t eat it, it had to be Renea.” I chuckled.

“Why does it have to be Renea? It could have been –

“Oh yeah or her lazy boyfriend who always loungin’ around our house, yup that’s who ate it.” It had been three months since we all lived together and things weren’t exactly hunky dory. We had established a great system with the cooking and cleaning of the kitchen, but for some reason Renea never pulled her weight.  So anything that went wrong in the house, she was always blamed. It wasn’t fair, but I think it was just easier to blame the person who never lifted a finger.

“Tenia, maybe you took it to work today, or maybe she thought it was hers.  Or maybe Latavia ate it. It may not have been here.” I stood up and started looking through the freezer again, trying to get Renea off the hook, but to no avail.

Five minutes later Renea walks out of her room with a paper plate in hand balled up, runs to the garbage and runs back to her room. Tenia and I locked eyes, then we both ran to the garbage.

“I bet you my hot pocket wrapper is in here.”

“You may just be over reacting.” We popped the top of the trash and she pulled the paper plate out.

“I will give you five bucks if there is a hot pocket wrapper in there.” I laughed as she unballed the paper plate and pulled out the plastic covering from the hot pocket.

“I’mma get her!” Tenia threw the trash on the floor and stormed towards Renea’s room.

“T, it’s not that big of a deal.” I jumped in front of her trying to stop her from beating up the girl over a hot pocket.  As I pushed her back toward the kitchen, she slowed in her tracks and looked me in the eyes.

“It’s not about the hot pocket Danielle, it’s the principle!” She smacked her hands together and a smirk came to her face.

“If she would have just asked I would have given it to her, but she violated my personal property and ate my stuff! I don’t touch her food, so why she gotta mess with mine!”

I nodded my head in agreement, but mostly just to get her calmed down.

“T, if you talk to her, just go in there calmly man, cause you going in all riled up is not gonna make it any better.”

As we were talking Renea comes out of her bedroom looking confused.

“Why are you guys yelling, it’s 9 o’clock at night?”

I rolled me eyes and stepped from in front of Tenia.  She took a deep breath, walked closer to Renea, and started to speak.

“I don’t appreciate the fact, that you ate my hot pocket, and acted like it wasn’t a big deal. It wasn’t yours, and I don’t touch your stuff, so why are you messing with mine?” Renia backed up and looked at her in a confusing manner.

“What are you talking about, that nasty ham and cheese pocket I just ate? It was nothing else to eat, my bad.” She threw her hands up and proceeded to walk back to her room. Tenia looked at me and before I could stop her, Tenia had grabbed the back of Renia’s ponytail.

Let go and Let God


I know that we have all heard this saying before once or twice in our lifetime. The idea is that when we let go of something that we are holding onto, God can intervene and change our sitaution for the better. But really think about this sentence, and think about your life. What person or thing MUST you let go of, so that God can be your true Lord over your life?

I remember being in college and having friends (including myself) that were boy crazy. All day and night the conversation was about this guy or that guy, and what he can do for me, and how we were going to live happily ever after. I even remember hearing about girls skipping class, dropping out of school, or transferring schools for a boy. Why were our lives so centered around someone who could walk away at any second and never come back?

Unlike a man, God will never walk away from us or leave us. He will always be there to protect us and give us the things we need to be everything he has called us to be. Have confidence in Christ and the things he has for you. The bible says: “While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen: for the things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are eternal” (II Corinthians 4:18).

Focus on your passion today, focus on finding your purpose, and remember that their are gifts and talents on the inside of you that are for you to develop for the King’s glory. Some people spend their whole lives looking to please others and not God. Seek God today, you will be fulfilled! 

There is no greater feeling to than to know you are doing what you have been called to do, and don’t worry about the money, or the new car, or the husband/wife. Everything will fall into place. That is the awesome loving, God we serve.

“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”