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The African American woman and her “Role models”


So, yeah, let’s talk about it….  

So I usually never write articles based on Social Media, gossip, or celebrity “Things” But coincidentally I was going to talk about role models and this cover happened to come up. Yeah, it’s a lot going on here. Most women are looking to be successful, beautiful, and definitely admired by others, but do these things line up with the Word of God and who The Lord really wants us to be?

I’m asking because, some young teenager is going to pick this magazine up, and say “Yeah, these are my role models” and honestly us as women have to start to give as much as we can back to the younger generation to show them differently. Especially if we are Women of God.

We spend countless hours watching these women, and honestly I can’t lie and say that I don’t have an opinion about the four of them based on their “Reality Celebrity persona”, but what are we as women in society doing or showing our younger generation of women that throwing plates at someone when your angry, or saying whatever you want to say anytime you want to say it, is wrong?

The point of this article is definitely not to “Bash” these women, because after all, they are God’s children, and everyone has the opportunity to turn from their ways and become better people, but my call is really to us as women of virtue, to increase our place in the life of at least one teenager who could be negatively affected by reality television, radio, music, or internet programs that degrade or disrespect women.

What alternative are we giving our girl teens? What are we doing to make a difference? Complaining about negativity never got us anywhere, but actually doing something about it, can change the world.

Our young girls should be focusing on their Virtue:

Virtue: is moral excellence. A virtue is a positive trait or quality deemed to be morally good and thus is valued as a foundation of principle and good moral being. Personal virtues are characteristicsvalued as promoting collective and individual greatness.

avirtuous bwoman is a crown to her chusband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. (Proverbs 12:4)

Modesty:

Modesty: Behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; ( 1 Timothy 2:9).

Love:

Love:s an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment.[1] Love is also a virtue representing all of human kindnesscompassion, and affection —”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”

Romans 13:8  Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.

Bottom line; We could bash these women and talk trash about them all day, but as women of faith, our job is to speak love, grace, and convey the traits of a virtuous woman. Show the younger ones in your life how to live this life for Christ, to live with and for your purpose, and most importantly, that this life is not about us, but about helping others learn who they are, and helping them to reach their goals.

Be the positive influence you want to see on television, because if we don’t start somewhere, it may never come.

Love you guys,

Dara Nichole

Taking it one day at a time….


30 But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and green and tomorrow is tossed into the furnace, will He not much more surely clothe you, O you of little faith?

31 Therefore do not worry and be anxious, saying, What are we going to have to eat? or, What are we going to have to drink? or, What are we going to have to wear?

32 For the Gentiles (heathen) wish for and crave and diligently seek all these things, and your heavenly Father knows well that you need them all.

33 But seek ([a]aim at and strive after) first of all His kingdom and His righteousness ([b]His way of doing and being right), and then all these things [c]taken together will be given you besides.

34 So do not worry or be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will have worries and anxieties of its own. Sufficient for each day is its own trouble. (Matthew 6:30-34)

In Life, I wear ALOT of hats. (Not to toot my own horn, but I’m busy) I’m a wife, a mother, An author, a blogger, a co-worker, a friend, a daughter, a sister, a student, and an aunt. Life can sometimes get really, really hectic, and all we can really do is deal with it.

Sometimes, it’s about how we deal with it. We may worry, we may take it out on others, or we may become withdrawn and overwhelmed. These are not good examples of how we deal with stress. We have to remember that even though we may be overwhelmed, the best way to deal with stress is to first  1.) Pray for wisdom on what to do 2.) Get organized and plan out what needs to be done 3.) do your best and don’t look back.

Being a first time mom and going back to work was crazy! At that point and time I was still getting up in the middle of the night to feed my son  more than once, and then getting up a few hours later to go to work. I honestly don’t know how I made it! My husband helped out alot, he was so supportive and took up a lot of the responsibility in the home, and we worked together to get a lot done, but it seemed like the  days were getting shorter and shorter.

I decided to get more organized, and what couldn’t be done that night just had to wait. We as humans always worry, sometimes about things we can’t even control, but we have to remember that if we choose to live for God, he will always make sure we are taken care of, he has our backs.

As time progressed, the days got easier, the chores lighter, and there was more time to spend with my family. Was my house sparkling clean? Some days, but not always, it would get better, and it did. I had to have patience with myself that I would obtain a balance in getting everything done, it took some time, but I’m still walking into it.

To all the new moms out there, and even to those women who have a lot on their plates, remember, God has your back. He will help you get organized, he will send people to assist you in getting things done, and he will help you finish everything in excellence, especially if it’s a God ordained project. Don’t worry about tomorrow, focus on doing your best, plan your days, and let God guide you on how to be the best you can be in every area that may stress you out.

 

Be confident in him,

Dara Nichole

 

 

Backstabbers not allowed


“Thus says the Lord of hosts, Render true judgments, show kindness and mercy to one another, 10 do not oppress the widow, the fatherless, the sojourner, or the poor, and let none of you devise evil against another in your heart.” Zechariah 7:9-10

I was reading this scripture earlier today, and what stuck out to me was the part that said “And let none of you devise evil against another in your heart” The definition of devise is -to contrive, plan, or imagine.

Have you had that one person who you were angry at, and you planned how you were going to get them back? What about when your parents made you angry so you decided to purposely disobey whatever rule they had in place? What about the friend that you are jealous of, have you told all your friends how horrible her character is, or how bad of a friend she is so she doesn’t look that good in their eyes? (Hope I’m not getting to much in your business.)

At the end of the day, all of these ideas are wrong. We as christians can’t try to avenge our co-worker, ex-boyfriend, brother, or classmate because of their wrongdoings against you. The bible says clearly “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” 20 To the contrary, “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Romans 12:19 God can and will take care of his children.

I can completely understand how people can hurt you, I have been there. From my 1st grade all the way up to 8th grade I was teased to tears because of my looks. I had to switch schools twice because the teasing was so bad. This severely effected my self esteem, and by the time I got to high school, I didn’t understand or know how beautiful I really was.

Being on facebook and just being out and about, you see so many people you went to school with, and I even had one person out of the blue apologize for how mean he was to me in elementary. I have forgiven them, but some of us out there, have not totally forgiven and let God take control. God is here to take away the pain, and that “Thing” you are holding onto is only going to hold YOU back from walking into your destiny.

If I would have made a decision to not forgive, I could still be bitter, and angry. You DONT want to carry that baggage around. Please, give your burden over to Christ and DONT let your mind devise ways to “avenge” the person who hurt you.

Love God, Trust God, Believe he is going to take care of you, and avenge your enemies. “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with [a]oil; my [brimming] cup runs overPsalm 23:5

God is stronger than your trials and tribulations


How many times have you been through a situation where you didn’t understand why it happened?  The word says: Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivereth him out of them all (Psalm 34:19). Being a Christian isn’t a remedy for having a perfect life, but it is the realization that the Lord is our comfort, can give us peace in the middle of a storm, and gives us hope for our future.

Recently my husband and I lost our first child. This was a traumatic situation where we had to lean on the Lord to get us through.  We didn’t understand why we were going through the situation, or the reason, but God’s word was a peace to us, and through it we understood who God is, and that is where our victory lies. The bible says “The LORD gives strength to his people; the LORD blesses his people with peace.” (Psalm 29:11) and God gave us that.

Instead of focusing on all the things we felt went wrong or what we could have done differently, we trusted that the Lord was in control and that his will was and still is prevailing. We know sometimes the enemy will try to get in your head and tell you one thing, but the devil is a liar, and nothing he says lines up with the word. My husband and I truly believe that we have the victory in this situation and that our future is bright, God loves us and you soo much, and he came to give us abundant life. That is what we cling to.

The wrong thing to do in a traumatic situation is to blame God. We must always remember that the Lord is our help, and that he is on our side(Psalm 124:8, Psalm 33:20, Romans 8:31) trials and tribulations come, and this is where the Word comes into play. You must be faithful and trust that God knows the end from the begininng, and that everything is working out for your good. We know that one day we will have a house full of beautiful children, and when the time is right, we will have that.

If you have been through, or are going through this situation right now, just know that God is on your side. He loves you and will be a comfort to you. Don’t give up faith in the Lord, and in his word he will see you through. He cares for you, and wants nothing but the best for you and your family. Stay strong in the Lord, trust God, and make sure your words line up with the word, and you will receive the things God has specifically for you. God is greater than your situation, and greater than you can believe, he can do the impossible, trust, believe, know that he is an awesome God, and he wants you to have children. Just remember that weeping may endure for a night, but Joy comes in the Morning.  And over time, you will have joy.