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Take no thought…..


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Therefore I tell you, stop being perpetually uneasy (anxious and worried) about your life, what you shall eat or what you shall drink; or about your body, what you shall put on. Is not life greater [in quality] than food, and the body [far above and more excellent] than clothing? Look at the birds of the air; they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father keeps feeding them. Are you not worth much more than they? And who of you by worrying and being anxious can add one unit of measure (cubit) to his stature or to the span of his life

Worry and torment, two major distractions, and two major things that keep us from walking in our purpose. I was talking with a girlfriend a few months back, and we were discussing this subject. Sometimes in life we go through situations and circumstances that cause us to be worried about our well-being, or we deal with relationships that cause us pain or mental and physical suffering (Which is torment). Sometimes it’s things that we have brought on ourselves, and sometimes ppl treat you wrong for no reason, and you are left trying to put your emotions back together. As a woman, I can honestly say I have felt this way in the past, and if you aren’t careful, the temporary situations you deal with can start to affect your life long decisions.

When we worry about anything, we are ultimately telling God that he can’t handle the situation that we are dealing with. We all go through troubles, but we have to remember that everything works out for “The good of those that love the lord”(Romans 8:28). God has a specific plan and purpose for our lives, and if we obey him, he will always work each and every situation out for us. He cares for us. In my life I have dealt with many trials and tribulations, and they may have not always worked out the way that I wanted them too, but they worked out in my favor! We have to truly lean, trust, rely, and believe that God loves us so much, to the point that he would never forsake us, leave us, or take away from us, unless it was for our good. We have to keep to the forefront of our minds that this is the same God that saved Daniel from the Lions Den, and Kept Goliath from beating David to death. What did these two have in common? They had unwaivering faith in the power of God to change their situations. It’s not to say they didn’t have the feeling of fear, but they didn’t let their emotions talk them out of what they knew the truth was, that God will take care of them no matter what the situation.

You may have been in a relationship where you were cheated on, or dealt with feelings of abandonment because your parents were not there. What the enemy does, is use these situations to create an emotional jail for you. Torment is one of  the worst type of emotions to deal with (I believe) because it’s constantly at the forefront of your mind. A woman or man who has been cheated on may start to ask herself “What am I not doing that this woman is doing?” or “Am I pretty enough?” “Am I smart enough?” “What does she have over me?”  Insecurity starts to set in, and a woman who may have once loved herself may try to change to be what she “Thinks” a man wants her to be instead of being the uniquely made creature God has called her to be. Low self-esteem starts to set in, then bitterness, and then depression. The Devil is a liar! No matter what you have been through, or what you have done, God loves you, and has forgiven you, and you have to forgive those that have wronged you, period. Believe that God is a restorer, and trust that he will heal your broken heart, that is his job. He will deal with those who have wronged you (Vengeance is mine sayeth the Lord). He won’t overlook a thing, believe and trust me on that. God wants you whole and healed, and not holding on to what others have done.

The enemy knows that if you focus on Worrying about your troubles and your tormented by your past that it will distract you from doing what you are ultimately called to do. Don’t allow anything to crush your spirit, take your joy, or create bitterness on the inside of you. God has a perfect plan for your life, and it’s so much bigger than the issues that you are dealing with. Your issues are mere distractions, and God can pull you out of anything. Our thought life can play a major role in our emotions, that is why the bible says;

“Whatever is worthy of reverence and is honorable and seemly, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely and lovable, whatever is kind and winsome and gracious, if there is any virtue and excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think on and weigh and take account of these things [fix your minds on them](Phil 4:8).

We also need to cast down all negative thoughts, and not dwell on them “ casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ( 2 Corinthians 10:3-5).

When it says to bring all thoughts into captivity, that ultimately means to control your thoughts, and cast down the negative ones. We all have this power, we just don’t activate it.

God is on your side. He loves you, cares for you, and wants to see you doing well! Don’t let the troubles of life distract you from obtaining everything that God has for you.

In love,

Dara Nichole

He makes all things new!


17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. (2 Corinthians 5:17)

Don’t think about the mistakes you have made in the past. Don’t think about the lies you told, the people you hurt, and how irresponsible you were. Once you became a follower of Christ and asked for his forgiveness, he forgave you and threw your sins in to the sea of forgetfulness.  (Micah 7:19)

19He will again have compassion on us; He will subdue and tread underfoot our iniquities. You will cast all our sins into the depths of the sea.(A)

20You will show Your faithfulness and perform the sure promise to Jacob and loving-kindness and mercy to Abraham, as You have sworn to our fathers from the days of old

Sometimes we get so focused on our past mistakes, we forget to remember that God Loves us so much and he WANTS us to do right. This doesn’t give us an excuse to mess up on purpose. But just remember to continue to move forward, repent, and develop a closer relationship with him.

He loves you!

Here is one of my favorite songs, enjoy!

Agape love, what does it mean??


This is a great article I found by Jimmy Evans… Let me know what you think…. Great advice for those looking to get married as well as those who are married. Happy reading!

                                             ~Dara Nichole

 

A Special Type of Love

There is an odd truth concerning love and marriage. Understanding it is an important key in making marriage and other relationships work. The truth is this – we don’t have the ability to really love without the power of the Holy Spirit working through us. In Galatians 5:22-23, the Apostle Paul tells us the fruit of the Spirit is, “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control…” According to this scripture, we don’t have the capacity to love without God giving us that ability as we surrender to Him. Often, when people say they love someone, they are just talking about sexual desire or a passionate feeling. These kinds of feelings come and go.So how are people able to “love” when they don’t know God? They can’t.

At least they are not able to love with God’s type of love. God’s love is a special love the Bible calls “agape”. It is a love that flows out of the will and does not change. It is the most stable and predictable kind of love and the only type that can provide a lasting foundation in marriage. Often, when people say they love someone, they are just talking about sexual desire (the Greek word “eros” where we get the word erotic) or a passionate feeling (“thumos” where we get our thermos). These kinds of feelings come and go. When they go for very long, many people give the old line “I don’t love you anymore” and are out the door. Agape love, however, is a committed and sacrificial love that is modeled after Jesus. When Jesus tells us He loves us, He isn’t talking about a feeling that comes and goes. He is telling us He is committed to us forever and will not change. Whether His feelings for us are positive or negative, it doesn’t change His commitment to us.

 We really need to consider what we mean when we tell our spouse, “I love you”. Are we saying that we are experiencing a fleeting feeling or are we saying we are committed to him or her forever and will demonstrate love regardless of bad feelings or negative circumstances? It isn’t wrong to express a feeling, as long as when that feeling isn’t there any more, you can still say “I love you,” and do the right thing regardless of the situation. People controlled by their emotions are unreliable, and their moodiness can do a lot of damage to relationships.

The most stable and dependable people in relationships are those who are submitted to the influence of the Holy Spirit. They are powered by a supernatural love that will do the right thing through thick and thin. Ask God to fill you with the power of His Holy Spirit. He never intends for us to go around trying to love people out of the shallow well of our own emotions.

The ocean of His love is always available to any of us who would just admit our weaknesses and depend upon Him. His agape love is the highest love and will transform any person, relationship or marriage under its influence.

check out more articles by Jimmy Evans at: Http://www.marriagetoday.org

You can also visit my website for more info on me: http://www.authordaranichole.com

Fear has got to go, now!


So I cannot stand scary movies. The blood, the guts, and the suspense before the person gets killed is all a big drag to me.  Have you ever watched a scary movie where the person hears the random noise in the woods, or goes to answer the loud banging on the door? We sit there screaming at the television “Don’t answer it!” or “Don’t walk into those dark woods!” Is it because we know what lurks around the corner, or is it a pure fear of the unknown?

When I first started writing, I feared what other people would think about me. Would they judge my writing skills? Would they believe what I was writing? Would I be judged for airing some things about my life? I wasn’t sure about the response, it was a fear of the unknown.  The bible says in Psalms 23 to fear no evil, for he is with us at all times. The bible also says to not fear what man can do to you. When we are free from the bondage of caring about what other people think, we are in a position to serve God freely and without doubt.

Stepping out into the will of God can at times be a scary thing. But our peace is in the fact that he is with us. No matter what the situation, If God told you to do something, you should do it. We cannot be afraid of walking into our destiny’s. The enemy wants to keep us in fear because he has an understanding of the promises God has given us for walking in his will. We have to get that same revelation.

The only person we should fear is God. We should honor and reverence him because he is so good to us, even when we aren’t good to him.  There is mercy in fearing and reverencing God and his promises (And His mercy is on those who fear Him
      From generation to generation
Luke 1:50), and  there is protection in the fear and reverence of God (The fear of the LORD prolongs days,  But the years of the wicked will be shortened Proverbs10:27).

God loves us so much, and if we line ourselves up with his will, he will take care of our enemies, and bring us into a place of perfect peace. Love him today, choose Christ, he will lead you and guide you into all righteousness. Our fears are pure figments of our imaginations, God is bigger than anything that can ever come up against us, we must magnify Christ bigger than our problems, then and only then, will we be able to walk in true freedom, and have the life that Christ has promised us.

“I’ve come that you might have life, and have it more abundantly” John 10:10

“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee” Isaiah 26:3

“If they obey and serve him, they shall spend their days in prosperity, and their years in pleasures”  Job 36:11      

*Choosing Christ means choosing life. Choose life today.