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The African American woman and her “Role models”

So, yeah, let’s talk about it….  

So I usually never write articles based on Social Media, gossip, or celebrity “Things” But coincidentally I was going to talk about role models and this cover happened to come up. Yeah, it’s a lot going on here. Most women are looking to be successful, beautiful, and definitely admired by others, but do these things line up with the Word of God and who The Lord really wants us to be?

I’m asking because, some young teenager is going to pick this magazine up, and say “Yeah, these are my role models” and honestly us as women have to start to give as much as we can back to the younger generation to show them differently. Especially if we are Women of God.

We spend countless hours watching these women, and honestly I can’t lie and say that I don’t have an opinion about the four of them based on their “Reality Celebrity persona”, but what are we as women in society doing or showing our younger generation of women that throwing plates at someone when your angry, or saying whatever you want to say anytime you want to say it, is wrong?

The point of this article is definitely not to “Bash” these women, because after all, they are God’s children, and everyone has the opportunity to turn from their ways and become better people, but my call is really to us as women of virtue, to increase our place in the life of at least one teenager who could be negatively affected by reality television, radio, music, or internet programs that degrade or disrespect women.

What alternative are we giving our girl teens? What are we doing to make a difference? Complaining about negativity never got us anywhere, but actually doing something about it, can change the world.

Our young girls should be focusing on their Virtue:

Virtue: is moral excellence. A virtue is a positive trait or quality deemed to be morally good and thus is valued as a foundation of principle and good moral being. Personal virtues are characteristicsvalued as promoting collective and individual greatness.

avirtuous bwoman is a crown to her chusband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. (Proverbs 12:4)


Modesty: Behavior, manner, or appearance intended to avoid impropriety or indecency

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; ( 1 Timothy 2:9).


Love:s an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment.[1] Love is also a virtue representing all of human kindnesscompassion, and affection —”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”

Romans 13:8  Owe no one anything, except to love each other, for the one who loves another has fulfilled the law.

Bottom line; We could bash these women and talk trash about them all day, but as women of faith, our job is to speak love, grace, and convey the traits of a virtuous woman. Show the younger ones in your life how to live this life for Christ, to live with and for your purpose, and most importantly, that this life is not about us, but about helping others learn who they are, and helping them to reach their goals.

Be the positive influence you want to see on television, because if we don’t start somewhere, it may never come.

Love you guys,

Dara Nichole


Being obedient to the call…. it’s a necessity

11If they obey and serve Him, they shall spend their days in prosperity and their years in pleasantness and joy.










You know, life can be hectic sometimes. Husbands, children, jobs, school, stress, and of course the project that God has you working on.  Why does it always seem to come last? We make excuses like, “Well, I don’t have the money to this” or “There just isn’t enough time in the day”. And for the most part, these excuses are valid, but yet and still, they are still excuses.

I know the things God wants me to accomplish, and nine times out of ten, you do too. Us being obedient to him will bring so much joy into our lives, and will probably set us up financially, but we still push it to the back burner.

This morning I was on my way to work praying and thanking God for waking me up, and I was reminded about his love for me.  Through all the mistakes, complacency, blatant disrespect, and wrong doings, God has loved me still. I am so grateful for the word of God. If I didn’t have it, I honestly don’t know where I would be right now. It has helped me through all those times when I didn’t think I could make it, when I wasn’t strong, and when I wanted to give up. I went further back and thanked God for the campus ministry I was a part of and how if it had not of been for my pastor being obedient to the will of God for his life, I probably wouldn’t be writing this blog telling you to be obedient!

Stop procrastinating. Start what God has told you to do. Don’t wait on anybody or anyone else to be obedient to what God has called YOU to do. You can make a difference. Just start where you are, and let God show you how many resources you have around you. It’s time for us to stop being so complacent with the things of God, and start working on the visions he has put on the inside of us.

You CAN do it. If God wants you to do it, he will provide. Believe, trust, know. God will never put something on the inside of you to complete if he didn’t equip you with the know how or the resources to get it done.  Hopefully this song will get you going this morning to take the first step in following your dreams!  You can win! Just take one step at a time.


When you have the opportunity to throw in the towel… Don’t, and here is why!

So we have all heard most of the scriptures about not giving up, and we’re very aware that we need to continue the good fight of faith.

But when you are going through those tests and trials how easy is it for us to forget the very thing we confessed over ourselves that morning, that past Sunday at church, and at our prayer meeting the night before. Do we really understand the importance of the gifts on the inside of us?

Understanding the vision that God put on the inside of us to fulfill his purpose and plan for our lives is key to walking into that very thing. Sometimes when we don’t fully understand something, we don’t recognize the value or power it holds.

The bible says in Hosea 4:6 “My People are destroyed for a lack of knowledge..” When we truly seek God and understand the vision that he has for us, and stay in constant prayer and contact on what God would have us to do, then we get the revelation on that matter, and obedience becomes easier.

I truly believe that when we have an understanding on our vision and realize to an extent how people can be affected positively with the gifts on the inside of us, more confidence in walking in God’s will comes forward. I always think about if my pastor would have decided to be a doctor, or a lawyer, or even a school teacher and not walked into the calling of being a Bishop. How many lives have been changed through his ministry? How many people have been restored, renewed, refreshed, and given hope?

The bible says in Romans 5:20 “For just as by one man’s disobedience (failing to hear, heedlessness, and carelessness) the many were constituted sinners, so by one Man’s obedience the many will be constituted righteous (made acceptable to God, brought into right standing with Him.)” Now Jesus definitely was obedient and understood the calling on his life, he knew that he had to give his life for us. We are to be like Christ as well, and just like Jesus, God Will use us to bring people to him and bring them into right standing through our obedience to God and our selflessness.

See how important your gift and your obedience to walking in the will of God is important to the Kingdom!

Now as you are reading this, raise your hand if you have ever been in the process of accomplishing your goal and have been distracted, lied on, talked about, or even physically or mentally pushed off course. If you have it proves, how important your gift and obedience is to the body of Christ.

What I have learned is, in our process to becoming all what God wants us to be, we are being developed. We are being molded. While we go through the rumors, the jealousy, and the distractions we are able to use the word to develop and feed our faith. As we grow in faith, we are able to disciple people under us, and show them the way that leads to Christ. And the cycle of vision, obedience, and faith start again in someone else.

Honesty is the best policy -Control that tongue

That which is desired in a man is loyalty and kindness [and his glory and delight are his giving], but a poor man is better than a liar Proverbs 19:22

Did you ever lie to your parents, or make up little white lies to tell your friends? Well, even though you may have thought you were impressing them with your wonderful stories, and whirlwind lifestyle, nine times out of ten, they could see through it all.

I went to college with a girl and she would lie about little things. it made me not trust what she had to say. Who wants to be the person that can’t be trusted?  Besides, people usually lie for a fear of something. Usually, getting caught doing something they werent supposed to do, trying to hide something from someone, or trying to pretend they are something they aren’t. So in essence, a lie is used to cover up something deceitful you have done, or are intending to do. Is it really worth your credibility?

The bible says: “May the Lord cut off all flattering lips and the tongues that speak proud boasting” Psalm 12:3, Which means lieing, or even boasting about what you have or don’t have isnt right. We have to be careful how much and what we say because people are watching and observing our lifestyle. People are looking for Christ and HIS authenticity, which means we need to be a representative of that in EVERY way.

the bible also says: “Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit” Psalm 34:13 You wouldnt want others to talk about you, so you shouldnt talk about others. Your tongue has a lot of power. Life and death is in your tongue. Be careful what you say, sometimes the words you say have a way of coming back to haunt you.

All in all My message to you is that we need to watch our tongues, not lie, and not boast. We are representatives of the most high, and our tongues speak the words of Christ. Work on what you say, how you say things, and whom you say them too. The Lord wants us to be better, not just for others sakes, but for our own.

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Count it all joy- Your situation is making you better off!

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“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. 4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” James 1:2-4

This scripture, and this song has been in my spirit all week, so I figured I would write about it. Now as you all know, my life has not been roses and chocolates. I have endured many things, and even though I still have tough situations I go through, I really had to thank God for this Fathers day. Let me tell you why.

Until the age of sixteen, I saw my father twice a week. We would go to carnivals, the mall, parks, Belle isle, festivals, and pretty much any outdoor activity you could think of. We were very close, and had a great relationship, until I turned 16.

Once I turned 16, it was like he disappeared. He didn’t call, he didn’t visit, and I had no idea what happened. I never was angry or bitter toward him, I just felt empty on the inside, and didn’t truly realize how much him not being a pertinent part of my life was until I got older. But God has a way of turning situations around.

My father in law is a pastor, and he is filled with so much wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. I was sitting in service listening to him, and starting thinking about all the times I had gone to him about certain situations in my life. About how much he supported our marriage, and how much he loved me. The tears started to pour and I began to thank God for replacing what I felt was lost all these years. Being able to be open and honest to your father is important in a woman’s life, and Matthews Father has stepped in where my dad left off.

No matter how much we try to act like we don’t need a father figure, we do. Sometimes our birth fathers may not be able to be there for us, and maybe that was better for us in the end. However, God said he would be a father to the fatherless, and he will provide whatever is needed for you to be everything he has called you to be on this earth.

Though you have been through so many trials and tribulations, count it all joy, you are NOT alone, God knows the pain you deal with of not having a father in your life, but he can heal that, and restore you.

Men, take this time to reevaluate who you are as a man, and what role you play in your family. Trust and know that your presence, insight, and Godly wisdom is needed. Be who you were called to be in your household; A man.

You are not alone, God will heal, restore, and replenish what was stole from you. Trust and believe God is not done with you, or me yet. So count it all joy!

I love you, and God loves you too. You are not by yourself.

Backstabbers not allowed

“Thus says the Lord of hosts, Render true judgments, show kindness and mercy to one another, 10 do not oppress the widow, the fatherless, the sojourner, or the poor, and let none of you devise evil against another in your heart.” Zechariah 7:9-10

I was reading this scripture earlier today, and what stuck out to me was the part that said “And let none of you devise evil against another in your heart” The definition of devise is -to contrive, plan, or imagine.

Have you had that one person who you were angry at, and you planned how you were going to get them back? What about when your parents made you angry so you decided to purposely disobey whatever rule they had in place? What about the friend that you are jealous of, have you told all your friends how horrible her character is, or how bad of a friend she is so she doesn’t look that good in their eyes? (Hope I’m not getting to much in your business.)

At the end of the day, all of these ideas are wrong. We as christians can’t try to avenge our co-worker, ex-boyfriend, brother, or classmate because of their wrongdoings against you. The bible says clearly “Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” 20 To the contrary, “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Romans 12:19 God can and will take care of his children.

I can completely understand how people can hurt you, I have been there. From my 1st grade all the way up to 8th grade I was teased to tears because of my looks. I had to switch schools twice because the teasing was so bad. This severely effected my self esteem, and by the time I got to high school, I didn’t understand or know how beautiful I really was.

Being on facebook and just being out and about, you see so many people you went to school with, and I even had one person out of the blue apologize for how mean he was to me in elementary. I have forgiven them, but some of us out there, have not totally forgiven and let God take control. God is here to take away the pain, and that “Thing” you are holding onto is only going to hold YOU back from walking into your destiny.

If I would have made a decision to not forgive, I could still be bitter, and angry. You DONT want to carry that baggage around. Please, give your burden over to Christ and DONT let your mind devise ways to “avenge” the person who hurt you.

Love God, Trust God, Believe he is going to take care of you, and avenge your enemies. “You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with [a]oil; my [brimming] cup runs overPsalm 23:5

Forgiving and not burning bridges

I am usually the type of person to not hold grudges, I just don’t feel they serve a purpose in my life, or in the life of any believer. Although, I can say that I have been in situations where I have had to remember the scriptures, and remember that God has forgiven me of my sins, which in turn means I must forgive people who do wrog things to me. Be gentle and forbearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so must you also [forgive] (Colossians 3:13).

Don’t get me wrong, people have talked about me behind my back, lied on me, stabbed me in the back, and done all sorts of things to knock me off my square, but my mindset is, if someone is trying so hard to distract me from being a positive influence, I must really have something powerful on the inside and I really need to focus more on developing that so I can be pleasing to God. Holding a grudge doesn’t make you the powerful one, it makes you the one holding the burden, and all that leaves you with is baggage.

God is so gracious and merciful to us everyday. We go along everyday making choices that we know aren’t always pleasing to God, we focus on ourselves sometimes more than we focus on the plan God has for us. Whether it be because we want to relax, have some fun, or just because we are running away from what God told us to do is neither here nor there, the point is, we do wrong when we know what is right, but yet and still God still takes care of us. That is some awesome love.

All God asks us to do is to seek him and be like him, forgiving that old boyfriend who cheated on you, or letting go of the anger from when your ex bestfriend lied on you. Don’t let anger, disappointment, and unforgiveness keep you from everything that God has planned for you “For if you forgive people their trespasses [their [a]reckless and willful sins, [b]leaving them, letting them go, and [c]giving up resentment], your heavenly Father will also forgive you” (Matt 6:14)

Let Jesus be your example on forgiveness. He forgave the people who abused, beat, and laughed at him. And Jesus prayed, Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34) We have to be able to forgive those who do us wrong even if we don’t want to, we have to. Jesus loved those people who abused and beat him, he died for those people who hung him on the cross. He died for us so that we could have the opportunity to live life more abundantly.

We have to understand the bigger picture and realize that opportunities for offense are going to be ever present. Our job is to make sure that we do not offend, that we love (Like Christ) and that we remember to ultimately forgive those who hurt us. Sometimes people are hurting themselves, you never know what the situation is, just know that God loves you, and has never held anything against you. He wants you to live a prosperous and abundant life, and he wants you to have your hearts desire. Love your neighbor and pray for your enemy, God will increase your life, and heal those who seek to hurt you. God has your back, and when you walk in his ways, he will always make sure your taken care of.

Stay in your lane

Then the word of the Lord came unto me saying, Before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee..”   (Jeremiah 1:4-6)

Have you ever been on the path that God called you to walk, minding your own business, and one day look up and see someone else and then (Dare I say it!) compare it to what you were doing? *Raising hand in embarrassment* Unfortunately, it’s something we all do every now and then, but we have to realize the plans that God has for us, are our plans, and are not to be compared to anyone else’s journey.

Sometimes we compare just for the sake of making sure we are keeping up with everyone else, sometimes it’s to check our level of faith, but at any rate, it chips away at our self-confidence, especially if we see our peers seemingly doing better in other areas where we may not be as astute. remember ALWAYS that God has a plan for YOUR life, and that he wants to see you happy, loved, and well taken care of, “I come that you might have life, and have it more abundantly (John 10:10).

God knew what he created you to do before your mother had completely formed you, AND he had a plan for your life. God loves you that much and you are that important to him. You are here to change someone else’s life, and make a difference, whether you believe it or not.

Love what God created, love the things that he has called you to do, pursue your purpose with all diligence, and stay in your lane. God is making sure that everything falls into place when you do these things. Why wouldn’t he, he loves you far more than you could ever understand!

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